Read Saeed Jaffrey's Last Letter To His Ex- Wife!
Authors: Prerna Singh (Editorial Team), Martini Shots, Bollywood, Mon Nov 16 2015, Source
We all know Saeed Jaffrey from his popular roles in movies like Gandhi, Shatranj Ke Khiladi and Dil. He was always this cute Grandpa or the sweet father figure.
Sadly, he passed away yesterday, leaving cinema lovers to mourn for this loss. Just weeks before he left us, a few pages from his diary started floating on the internet which were dedicated to his ex-wife, Madhur Jaffrey.
This letter can make yu realise the power of true love. And why we lose it so often when we keep looking in all the wrong places. Read the excerpts here!
"I was 19 when I was married to Mehrunima who was 17. As I grew up, I was very fascinated by the British culture in colonial India. I learnt to speak English fluently, wear suits with grace, and developed impeccable etiquettes. But Mehrunima grew up to be my complete opposite - homely, a typical housewife. All my advices and admonishments couldn't change her basic personality - an obedient wife, a doting mother and a good homemaker. But she was not what I wanted. More I tried to change her, more we drifted apart. Gradually she metamorphosed from a cheerful affectionate young girl into a quiet insecure woman. Meanwhile I started getting attracted to a co-actor of mine who was all what I wanted in my wife."
He talked about his divorce!
"After 10 years of marriage, l divorced Mehrunima, left my home and married my co- actor. I had ensured financial security of Mehrunima and my kids . For about 6-7 months everything went well. Then I started realising, my new wife was not caring and affectionate. She was only concerned about her beauty, her ambitions, her wants and desires. Sometimes I missed Mehrunima's caring touch and concern for my welfare. Life moved on. I and my new wife were 2 persons living in a house, not one soul living in a home. I never went back to find out what happened to Mehrunima and my kids."
When he came across his ex-wife, again.
"After about 6 -7 years of my second marriage, I came across an article on a Madhur Jaffrey, an upcoming famous chef who had recently launched a book of her own recipes. The moment I looked at the picture of the smart elegant lady, I was stunned. It was Mehrunima. But how could it be ??? She had remarried and changed her maiden name too.
I was shooting abroad at that time. She lived in US now. I caught the next flight to US. I inquired about her where abouts and went to meet her. She refused to see me. My daughter who was 14, and son who was 12, told her they wanted to talk to me one last time. Her new husband was by her side. He was also my children's legal father now."
His children gave him an important life lesson!
"To this date, I cannot forget what my children told me.
They told me that their new father knows the meaning of true love. He accepted Mehrunima as she was and never tried to change her into what he himself was, because he loves her more than he loves himself. He let her evolve at her own pace and never tried to force his wishes on her. He accepted and enjoyed her person as it was. And she has bloomed into a confident loving affectionate self reliant lady today under her second husband's selfless love and acceptance."
Before leaving, he taught us the importance of loving someone, and staying with them no matter what comes our way!
"He Never Loved Her, He Had Always Loved Himself,
And Those Who Love Themselves, Cannot Love Others."
You'll be in our memories, and so would be this letter!
Scroll down to see a few memories from his life, here!