The fancy house is not to ensure the marriage will work. It is contingent on whether they care to make it work. Sensible couples care to work things our or as Gweneth Paltrow said, have a conscious "decoupling". Murder will not be a means to divorce.
Every society from Japan, to Europe to South Africa to Ireland has warring people willing to tear each other apart. They live can live together with out the governments going despotic. That is a start to mending.
I do not care how the indian sees the black man or visa versa. There will be disincentives to fighting. The public sector is not a plum pie and will not be a plum pie in the future. It is actually an economic trap into a fixed income. Entrepreneurship will be the holy grail and as long as the government cannot operate with the kith and kin attitude all will be well
You can dwell in your NON BLACKNESS in the USA and think as you wish. Blacks in Guyana and T&T will view the public sector as a life jacket until they feel confident that the private sector will be fair to them. Unlike Jamaica and Barbados, which had their own private sector anti blackness, there are many non blacks in T&T and Guyana, so those who wish to project their negative bias against blacks in discrimination in hiring/promotion decisions are amply able to do so. In Jamaica and Barbados the private sector had no choice but to open up, given the demographics of those populations.
You will not get Guyanese and Trinidadian blacks to cease desiring dominance of the public sector while you do NOTHING about the hiring and promotional practices of the corporate sector. Solve one and then the other is resolved. Public sector dominance will cease to be a prize because the zero sum scenario becomes less relevant.
South Africa in fact indicates exactly why ignoring the cultural context doesn't work. Blacks and whites in that nation operate in an even more cultural different context than do blacks and Indians in Guyana. Yes when Mandela came on stream there was a lot of glad handing but now we see a nation where the two look at each other and don't wish to understand their respective contexts. The blacks accuse the whites of being greedy and the whites fear a Zimbabwe scenario.
So I hope that you don't think that their post apartheid arrangements prove your point. Those arrangements didn't work any better than in 1992 when Jimmy Carter led the holding of elections which led to the end of the PNC dictatorship. As with South Africa, so with Guyana there is a whole raft of ethnic angst which infect the entirety of what these nations represent and one cannot reference these countries without noting this.
What is Guyana most known for? Its the low level tribal conflict which impacts how the rest of the world sees us. I never see any article written about Guyana which doesn't dwell on this and its potential for more open conflict.