KP,
Tough call,with three young kids that got to hurt and sad.
I went and saw a country man about a decade ago at the hospital, was a teacher who lived in Kastev and taught at Uitvlugt Primary,he was diagnosed with cancer went into remission then came back,his family was told of his time line,they never told him,he seemed happy never knew his demise,i can recall he said i fell like eating some Bajee,dhall and rice.
I looked at him feeling remorseful,in my mind i saying "one day we are here and then we are gone",a few days after he was gone.
Earlier one of my sister-in-law passed away with cancer at a young age,leaving 3 young children,that hurted badly,our wedding was on the same day,she married my brother-in-law and i married my brother-in-law sister,we were very close and migrated the same year,I prayed every day for her survival didn't happen,from then on my belief strengthened in Science,if we cant be saved that's it,I am no more a highly religious fella.