i have heard this saying:
mother dead, family done! or mumma dead fambly done
Not true, my Dad is holding us all together now, taking over where my Mom left off.
then maybe i got it wrong and ... it's daddy dead famblee done
gurl not everybody's family are hypocrites who put on a show for their relative when he/she is alive but after death set out to cause hurt to the children and spouse of deceased...some folks have class while others are jealous, uncouth and vindictive