Cain, I raised by only daughter to be assertive, educated, self confident and self reliant because when I was growing up in Guyana, I saw how Guyanese women in certain segments of the population were treated.
We need to name things for what they are, even if those things are said as jokes. We are living in an environment such things are not tolerated anymore in the societies in which we live. It is not about being uptight and needing to loosen up (though I agree with your statement, but that is who I am and it is responsible for my success in whatever I do), it is about what is right!